For many, understanding their sexuality is a lifelong journey filled with twists and turns. Emma Flint, a 32-year-old writer from England, spent three decades questioning her identity before discovering the term “abrosexual”—a label that finally made sense of her ever-changing attractions.
Abrosexuality describes those whose sexual orientation isn’t fixed but shifts over time. Some days, Emma felt drawn only to women, identifying as a lesbian. Other times, her attraction shifted to men or even faded entirely. For years, she struggled with feeling like a fraud, unsure why her desires seemed so unpredictable. But when she stumbled upon the term online, everything clicked. “I felt seen at last,” she shared.
Unlike traditional labels that define attraction based on gender, abrosexuality focuses on the fluid nature of desire itself. Emma explains, “I love the person, not their gender, so it doesn’t matter if my feelings change.” Still, she faces skepticism from those who insist she should “pick a lane.” Her response? Identities don’t need to be understood to be valid.
Abrosexuality manifests differently for everyone. Some experience daily shifts, while others notice gradual changes over months or years. What matters is recognizing that these fluctuations are normal. Emma hopes her story helps others feel less alone—because everyone deserves the freedom to embrace their true self.
