Long-distance relationships aren’t for the faint of heart, but they can be incredibly rewarding if you approach them with the right mindset. I’m no expert, but I’ve spent years loving someone over a thousand miles away, and I’ve learned a thing or two about making it work. Let me take you back to where it all began.
In 2019, my partner and I were in college together, living just five minutes apart. As college athletes, our schedules were hectic, but we made it work. Then, COVID hit in March 2020, and suddenly, we had more time for “normal” couple activities—except for one problem: he lived in California, and I lived in Arizona. When I transferred to a college in the Midwest, the real distance began. After my junior year, he was drafted for professional baseball, and we found ourselves 1,300 miles apart with a three-hour time difference. His schedule keeps him at the field for 10+ hours a day, but despite the challenges, I wouldn’t have it any other way.
Long-distance relationships require trust, patience, and honesty. They also demand that you maintain your own identity and interests while supporting your partner from afar. Here are some tips that have helped me navigate the distance:
- Be Your Own Person: Your partner is an addition to your life, not your entire life. Use this time to pursue your passions and goals while cheering on your partner in theirs.
- Try the Agapé App: This app offers daily relationship questions that help you connect on a deeper level. It’s perfect for couples who value meaningful conversations.
- Limit Constant Communication: You don’t need to text or call all day. Brief check-ins and occasional FaceTime calls can keep the connection strong without overwhelming your schedules.
- Communicate Openly: Long distance requires extra effort in communication. Be clear about your feelings and needs, and encourage your partner to do the same.
- Plan Virtual Dates: Just because you’re apart doesn’t mean you can’t have date nights. Watch movies together online, have dinner over FaceTime, or send surprise deliveries to each other.
- Cherish Your Time Together: Make the most of your visits by planning ahead and staying present in the moment. Always have your next trip planned to give you something to look forward to.
- Be Intentional: Show love through thoughtful words and actions, even from a distance. Learn each other’s love languages and find creative ways to express them.
- Love Yourself: Use this time to grow as an individual. The more you love and understand yourself, the more love you can share with your partner.
Long-distance relationships are tough, but with effort and communication, they can thrive. While it’s hard being apart, the right person makes it all worth it.
