For Emma Flint, understanding her sexuality wasn’t a straight path – it was a winding journey that took thirty years to fully comprehend. The 32-year-old writer from Staffordshire recently shared her powerful story of self-discovery, revealing how she came to understand herself as abrosexual – a term describing those whose sexual attraction fluctuates over time.
Flint’s experience mirrors many who don’t fit into static categories of sexuality. She spent years identifying as lesbian, only to find her attractions shifting – sometimes toward men, sometimes toward no one at all. “I felt like I was at sea,” she confesses, describing the confusion of feeling like a different sexual person at different times in her life. The breakthrough came when she stumbled upon the term “abrosexual” in an online forum. “I finally felt seen,” she recalls.
Abrosexuality represents an often-overlooked dimension of human sexuality where attractions aren’t fixed but fluid. Unlike orientations that define who someone is attracted to, abrosexuality describes how those attractions can change – sometimes daily, sometimes over longer periods. Flint explains it beautifully: “I love the person, not their gender, so it doesn’t matter if my sexuality fluctuates while I’m with them.”
The writer’s story highlights how language shapes identity. For years, Flint felt “broken” because she couldn’t find words to describe her experience. Now, she hopes her story will help others recognize that sexuality exists on a spectrum – and that fluidity is just as valid as any other orientation. Her message is simple yet powerful: “An identity isn’t less authentic just because you don’t understand it.”
