Even worse than hearing “I don’t love you anymore,” hearing “I never loved you” is being told by someone you love. All the bad things seem to go away when we’re in love, and we don’t notice any red flags. So it was for the main character in this story, who learned that time always shows us the truth, even if we don’t want to see it.
There are many reasons a marriage can end. Some people may be ready for it, but others are completely caught off guard. Here are some tips at the end of the article to help you deal with this.
Annabelle, my ex-wife, and I met in college. My family told me that even though she seemed nice, there was something wrong with her. She was there for me when things were hard. She quit college and said she didn’t need a degree because she wanted to be a stay-at-home mom someday. This made things even worse. I didn’t mind the idea of her staying home with our kids when they were born.
After some time, I got an offer for my dream job. The pay was six figures, and it came with a business car and trips. I could finally leave my parents’ house and live on my own. I bought an engagement ring with some of the money I got for signing the contract. After meeting Annabelle for a while before I had any money, I never thought she would be with me just for that.
My family tried to show me warning signs.In this case, Annabelle planned a big, pricey wedding and wanted the biggest house she could find. My gift didn’t last long, and I was afraid I hadn’t saved enough.
The costs went up when we had kids, but I thought she was just being nice to them. Then I was fired, but after a month I got a job at a different company that pays a lot less. We had enough money to stay in our house, but things had to change.
I told my wife that we would not be taking as many trips a year and that our kids would not be able to go to private school. She wasn’t pleased.
She told me after two months, “I don’t think I can do this anymore.” It caught me off guard, and we got into a fight. While we were “on a break,” she took the kids to live with her mother. But after a few weeks, she asked me for a divorce.
In reality, I was home every night for dinner and we used to spend the whole weekend together. She said we had grown apart because I worked too many hours and wasn’t there.
She told me it wasn’t because I was making less money several times when I asked her what was wrong. It was her way of telling me she got married too soon and could do something else.
It was too hard for me to believe that my whole marriage had been a lie. There was someone else with her two weeks after she filed for divorce. In three months, they moved in together. They were even engaged before our breakup was over. This guy makes six figures a year as a surgeon. I have no idea when she began cheating.
I only get to see my kids on the weekends now because of work, and I hate it. That’s too bad I didn’t get Annabelle to sign a prenup. She got half of everything. I used to love her but now I hate her.
I love my children, but I blame myself for wasting 10 years of my life with a woman who only cared about money. I should have saved a lot more, but when we got married, she spent it on things we didn’t need.
